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Dear Fred
I just lost my Mom on March 29th. I struggle with anxiety and depression, but feel it's been good through all of this. My Mom was so scared and didn't want to die...So, my question for now is. How do I forgive myself for not getting to her in time? I have moments were I feel ok and others where I cry. I don't want to make a fool of myself at work. Do you have any sites you could recommend that are honestly helpful for grief?
Fred's Response
Anxiety is one of the symptoms of grief. Don’t expect to go through without going through the various stages of grief. It will take time for you to make realizable progress. Experience this as much as possible by reading helpful material such as Bill Bright’s book on dying, The Journey Home, or Haddon Robinson’s book on Grief. Be assured that she is now in the hands of a loving and just God. Her relationship was with the sovereign God of the universe more than any one else. He knew the timing. You do not need to carry the guilt and the responsibility for the timing of her death. Certainly all of us would like to live parts of our life over again, but we have to leave that to the mercy and grace of God.
