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Dear Fred

My wife struggles with anxiety attacks and feelings of worrying that something is wrong with her physically. We just had our 3rd child and she stays at home to care for them. She also struggles with what her purpose in life is and seems like her role as homemaker is insignificant. How can I best assist her in overcoming these issues and helping her through them?

Fred's Response

She is suffering one of the maladies of our present culture. When women are told they cannot be fulfilled without a career. Fortunately my wife felt her complete fulfillment in motherhood. There is no greater fulfillment. Be sure that she has regular physical examinations and the doctor assures her of her health. Sometimes people worry about their health as an evidence of guilt. Be sure she appreciates the forgiveness of Christ and the blessings she has received. Anxiety attacks need to be recognized and minimized as much as possible. I too have suffered with these and find that being as objective of my blessings, as I can helps considerably. Recently I have heard a song which has been very helpful to me-“Through it all I have learned to trust in Jesus. Through it all I have learned to trust His love.” Possibly you can find a recording of that song which has been so helpful to me. Remember victory will not come easy nor fast but progress will be very reassuring both to her and you. Finally, get her to read reassuring passages effecting her situation. For example, “Casting all your care upon him for he cares for you.” “Be not anxious in anything.” Add to these and assure her that God’s will is never contrary to his word.