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Dear Fred
I have a nine year old son that it a very good kid, but he is having a lot of anxiety about school. Every morning before school he calls and we talk, he tells me he is worried about this test or that subject, and I am not sure that is what is wrong, because we work with him on his home work every evening making sure it is done, and that he is prepared for any test. When I talk to him in the morning I try and redirect our conversation to something he likes to do in school and this works sometimes, but not all the time, I have asked the school counselor to talk with him and she has, it seem to help a little, but he is unconforable going, because the other kids may see him going in there. I want to help him be at peace and enjoy being a kid so much, I pray for him everyday, and I tell him that I am praying for him, and he now asks me to pray for him and I like that he asks that and reminds me. Do you have any suggestions any and all would be appreciated.
Fred's Response
I would suggest you check his relation with his teacher. I found with our children how much they admired their teacher had much to do with the efforts at school, particularly how much the teacher was interested in them. I can understand his reticence in going to the counselor because I have found the same thing among my friends who are hesitant when going to therapy. Unfortunately we associate a lack of mental capacity and therapy. Be sure the problem isn’t more important to you then to him. You may be over-reacting to a situation that is fairly normal to children.
